The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Surviving The Transition From Woman To Mom (and managing ADHD)
Motherhood is a monumental transition, and for many women, it feels like life has turned upside down. There's no guidebook that comes with becoming a mom, and sometimes, the journey can feel isolating and overwhelming. In this episode, I am joined by Iesha Madden, we are diving into the realities of this transition, especially when ADHD is in the mix, offering some relatable insights and practical tips that can help anyone on this path.
The Transition Into Motherhood
The shift from being a childless woman to a mom can be daunting. Suddenly, you find yourself in a world where you are constantly adjusting and learning—where routines are turned on their heads, and personal time often becomes a distant memory. This can be particularly challenging if you became a mom during unprecedented times, such as during the pandemic, which amplified feelings of isolation for many, underlining the importance of community and support.
Acknowledging Your Experience
One key takeaway is the importance of acknowledging and validating your experience. Becoming a mother introduces a flood of new responsibilities and emotions that can lead to feelings of stress and anxiety. For those of us who are neurodivergent, these challenges can feel magnified, as traditional routines might not align with how our brains naturally function.
Discovering ADHD in Parenthood
Recognizing ADHD in oneself, whether diagnosed or self-suspected, is a significant step. Many find that managing motherhood, work, and personal well-being becomes a balancing act where traditional methods may fail. Finding a rhythm that suits you, often through alternative approaches to routine and self-care, becomes essential. Identifying and creating supportive environments, whether through workplace flexibility or personal therapeutic practices, can immensely help in navigating daily life.
Embracing Routine with Flexibility
Routine is crucial, but adherence can be tough with ADHD. Gamifying mundane tasks, such as washing dishes or doing laundry, can inject some much-needed fun and focus. Set challenges for yourself, like racing against a timer, or try to incorporate enjoyable elements into chores, such as listening to favorite music or podcasts. This makes the task less tedious and more engaging. It's all about finding what motivates you and leaning into that.
Building Resilience Through Structure
Start and end your days with intention. Incorporating a gratitude practice or daily mindfulness can serve as a solid foundation for your mental well-being. Waking up a few minutes earlier to write down or reflect on what you’re thankful for can shift your mindset positively for the day. Similarly, ending the day with a moment of gratitude can help create a peaceful transition into rest.
Personal Growth in Motherhood
Motherhood’s ever-changing nature requires adaptability. The reality of not being able to control every aspect of life, especially with kids, means focusing on personal growth and resilience. Crafting a mental toolkit full of practices that nurture both body and mind can be a lifesaver. Knowing that you are not alone and that other mothers are experiencing similar feelings can foster a sense of community and support.
In the grand tapestry of life, motherhood challenges us in unique ways but also offers profound growth. By reclaiming control over how we start and end our days and finding supportive and innovative ways to manage tasks, we can enhance our journey not just as mothers but as individuals. Remember, it’s okay to seek help, explore new strategies, and, most importantly, give yourself grace as you navigate this complex yet rewarding path.
Embrace your journey, grow from your experiences, and know that you are doing a wonderful job regardless of the hurdles you face. Whether you are a new mom or have been one for a while, these insights and practices can help bring more balance and joy into your life.