The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: The Two Must Haves For A Happy Marriage

Marriage and motherhood can be challenging, but achieving growth and improvement doesn't have to be complicated. Sometimes, simple, foundational steps can lead to remarkable changes. Here, we're going to discuss a transformative two-step process that can rejuvenate your marriage, streamline your life, and help you become the parent you aspire to be.

Step 1: Establish a Vision

One of the fundamental questions I ask anyone considering working with me is: "What is it that you are wanting?" Many people struggle to articulate their desires, often focusing on what they don't want rather than what they do want. But without a clear vision, it's nearly impossible to see progress.

Your vision is not about psychic abilities but a crystal-clear picture of the future you desire. It includes every facet of life—your marriage, your parenthood journey, your personal development, your relationships, and your career goals. Having this vision simplifies decision-making. Anytime you're faced with a choice, ask yourself: "Does this get me closer to my vision or farther away?"

**Life Vision Guidelines:**
1. Close your eyes and picture every aspect of your desired future.
2. Consider the long-term: What does your life look like 10, 20, 30 years from now?
3. Think about your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
4. Envision your relationships—with your spouse, your children, extended family, and friends.
5. Imagine your career or business ventures and where you might live.

Take time to deliberately create this vision. It's easy to feel overwhelmed by daily routines without a clear picture of your ultimate goals.

Step 2: Set Daily Intentions

Once you have established your vision, the next step is to set daily intentions. These intentions align your actions, thoughts, and behaviors with your vision. Ask yourself each morning: "How do I want to feel today? How do I want my day to go?"

Tips for Setting Intentions:
- Morning Affirmations: Start your day with affirmations that reflect how you want to be as a parent, spouse, and individual.
- Pre-Event Planning: Before stressful times such as dinner with kids, set a specific intention: “I want dinner to be fun and connected.”
- Daily Actions: Take specific steps to align with your vision, such as putting your phone on “Do Not Disturb” so you can be fully present with your family.

When setting intentions for your marriage, consider how you want to feel—happy, connected, like a team. Shift away from the tendency to blame your spouse for unmet needs. Instead, focus on what you can control—your actions, attitudes, and responses.

Aligning with Your Vision and Intentions

As you practice setting intentions and establishing a vision, you gain clarity and direction. For instance, if you desire a loving, supportive marriage, ask yourself how you can contribute to that vision daily. Have conversations, flirt, plan dates, and communicate your needs and desires respectfully.

It’s also crucial to acknowledge that change is a two-way street. Just as your spouse’s actions affect you, your actions influence them. Strive to possess the attitude and behaviors that align with your vision. If needed, seeking the help of a professional coach or therapist can provide additional guidance and tools.

Whether you're struggling in your marriage, feeling disconnected as a parent, or just stuck in a rut, starting with these two foundational steps—establishing a vision and setting daily intentions—can dramatically impact your life. Intentionally aligning your daily actions with your broader goals helps turn your vision into reality.

If you need assistance creating your vision or setting intentions, consider reaching out for support. Together, we can work towards making your dreams a reality because you deserve it. Share this post with anyone feeling stuck, and let's spread the path to positive change.

Take the time to apply these steps, and you’ll find yourself on a rewarding journey of transformation.

For more tips and personalized guidance, don't hesitate to book a call with me. Let's make your vision a reality.