In this episode, I dive into a fresh perspective on handling conflicts that many of us encounter. As we know, disagreements are a normal part of life, especially when shared responsibilities like caring for the kids and managing a home come into play. However, the way we handle these disagreements can make all the difference.

The Lens of Conflict: Problem Solving vs. Winning

Consider this the next time you find yourself in a disagreement with your spouse. Are you focused on solving a problem, or are you attempting to win an argument? This shift in focus from confrontation to collaboration can redefine your marital dynamic. Instead of instilling a win-lose mindset, nurturing a problem-solving approach promotes understanding, compassion, and love.

Understanding the Roots of Conflict

In my early days of dating and marriage, I was all about winning arguments, a habit shaped by what I witnessed growing up. It was more about placing blame and less about understanding. However, I lea...

In this episode, I dive into a topic that many of us navigate but sometimes hesitate to discuss openly: maintaining a fulfilling marriage after having kids. Life gets hectic, and while we do our best to keep the spark alive, sometimes calling in reinforcements can make all the difference. Let’s explore when it might be time to reach out for professional help and how to go about it.

Why Marriage Gets Tough After Kids

Isn't it something how life changes dramatically after kids? The dynamic between you and your partner shifts, and suddenly, those spare moments to enjoy each other feel far away. Responsibilities pile up, and our time is devoured by logistics rather than love notes. If you find yourself nodding along, you're not alone. Many couples experience communication breakdowns, unmet expectations, and a dwindling connection. It's all too common for intimacy to take a back seat as exhaustion levels rise and financial stress surfaces.

Recognizing When It's Time for Help

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Life often feels like a balancing act between marriage, motherhood, and self-care. If you're navigating these demanding roles and sometimes feel like you and your partner are drifting apart amidst the daily hustle, you're not alone. In this episode, we explore some insights shared from a recent heartfelt conversation with Sarah Parise, a Wellness Coach for Moms, and how these can transform our perspective on maintaining a fulfilling relationship.

Rediscovering Connection

One of the standout themes was the remarkable power of spending quality, uninterrupted time with your partner. When life is pulling you in a million directions, it's easy to default to autopilot as parents and partners. However, carving out time, whether for an evening out or a weekend getaway, is essential. It’s about breaking the routine and stepping away from responsibilities to enjoy each other’s company without distractions. Even if a long getaway is unattainable, short outings or even a simple lunch date w...

Maintaining the spark in your marriage can sometimes feel like an uphill battle, especially when you're knee-deep in tackling the more challenging aspects of your relationship. Much like the chaos of spring cleaning, where things seem messier before they become tidy, the process of working on your marriage can feel overwhelming. Yet, amidst this occasionally tense journey, it’s crucial to remember the importance of fun and connection.

Just as with our closest friendships, fun and camaraderie form the bedrock of a strong marriage. Think of your marriage as a friendship with added layers of romance and intimacy. Rediscovering activities you both enjoy—laughing at inside jokes, supporting each other during difficult times, or simply spending time together—can help reinforce this foundational bond.

Here’s the thing: friendships help smooth over conflict. When we maintain a friendly connection, we navigate disagreements more gracefully, avoiding the trap of villainizing each other. I...

Valentine's Day can often stir up a mix of emotions—anticipation, excitement, and sometimes even disappointment. But what if you could ensure that this year is your best one yet? As a marriage coach, I've got some tips to help you navigate this day with ease and joy, whether or not you've had the best experiences in the past.

Why Valentine's Day Can Be Frustrating

Everywhere you turn—whether it's a giant retail store, Instagram ad, or school reminder—you're faced with Valentine's Day hype. It's so easy to get caught up in the stress of planning something perfect, especially if you're already juggling parenthood and a busy life. And let's be real; sometimes it's a lot to ask, right after the holiday period, when all we want is a little breather.

Understanding the Root of Disappointment

We often assume our partners should know what we want without having communicated it. It’s like expecting them to be mind readers, leading to inevitable disappointment when things don’t go as we ...

In this episode I dive into the topic of arguing in marriage. Is it bad to argue with your spouse?

Why Disagreements Happen

To kick things off, let's talk about what arguing actually entails. Disagreements in marriage are natural and, believe it or not, healthy. They show honesty and authenticity between partners. When you and your spouse don’t see eye to eye, it simply reflects that you’re being true to yourselves instead of just going along to keep the peace. This honesty forms the foundation for growth and deeper understanding in any relationship.

The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Arguing

Now, not all arguments are created equal. The key is learning how to handle disagreements in a way that strengthens rather than weakens your connection with your partner. Healthy arguing looks like respectful conversations where both people feel heard and valued. It's about understanding each other’s perspectives, working together towards solutions, and responding intentional...

Rethinking Relationship Goals

In the realm of marriage, many of us wish we could eliminate conflict entirely, just to avoid those stressful arguments. However, here's the kicker – avoiding conflict doesn't guarantee a healthy, happy partnership. On the contrary, avoiding disagreements can stifle growth and honesty. A conflict-free relationship doesn't ensure your happily forever after; it might just mean someone isn't being truthful, either with themselves or their partner.

The Value of Conflict

Believe it or not, conflict can be a powerful ally in your relationship. By facing disagreements head-on, we open the door to developing deeper connections and fostering understanding. Conflict isn't about endless fighting; it's about acknowledging our feelings and tapping into what really matters to us. Imagine it as a catalyst, highlighting areas in our lives that need attention and encouraging us to grow.

Navigating Conflicts with Grace

Instead of making "not fighting" the corne...

As we approach the New Year, it's a perfect time to consider how we want to transform the coming year into one of growth—not just personally, but also within our marriages and family life. Let's take a moment to reflect, set intentions, and create the life we envision for ourselves in 2025. Here’s a friendly guide on how to embark on this journey.

Reflecting on the Past Year

The first step is all about reflection. What went well this year? Were there improvements in your personal life, your role as a mom, or within your marriage? Recognizing positive changes, even small ones, can be encouraging. It might be as simple as appreciating fewer arguments or better communication. On the flip side, acknowledging where we felt stuck or disconnected helps us identify what we want to change. This awareness is the foundation for growth.

Crafting a Vision

Having a clear vision for what you want in 2025 is crucial. Without it, we drift aimlessly, making decisions based on temporary feeli...

How Slowing Down Can Transform Conflict in Your Marriage

Conflict in marriage is inevitable. It’s a natural part of being in a close, committed relationship. But arguments? Those are optional. If you’re in a marriage that feels like a never-ending cycle of arguments, you’re not alone—and this episode is for you. We’re going to explore how slowing down during conflict can lead to better communication, deeper understanding, and a stronger relationship.

Conflict Is Normal, But Arguments Don’t Have to Be

Conflict often arises because two people have different perspectives, needs, or experiences. That’s normal. The real issue isn’t the conflict itself; it’s how we navigate it. Unfortunately, many of us weren’t taught how to communicate effectively during moments of tension. Instead, we may rely on unhealthy habits we picked up from childhood or past relationships.

The good news? You can break the cycle. You can learn to approach conflict in a way that brings you closer together,...

Navigating the Holiday Hustle: Tips for a Joyful Holiday Season

The holiday season is upon us, and with it comes a whirlwind of responsibilities and expectations. As we juggle the festivities with our daily lives, it’s essential to pause and think about how we truly want to experience this time. In this episode, I am joined by Nevart Willborn and together, we share how to navigate the season with joy and intention.

Balancing Act

The holidays bring an avalanche of tasks, from decorating to gift-giving, and everything in between. It's easy to feel overwhelmed, but remember, it’s all about balance. Start by identifying what's most important to you and your family. Prioritize those activities, and don’t be afraid to let go of the rest. Quality over quantity is key.

Communicate and Collaborate

In relationships, especially marriage, teamwork makes all the difference. Open communication with your partner can ease the holiday load. Discuss your expectations, plan together, and del...