Marriage, like any aspect of life, isn't immune to change. Often, we find ourselves in situations we didn't plan for, and that leaves couples feeling stuck or frustrated. But here's the good news: change is not only possible, it's inevitable. Your relationship is already different from what it once was, and that means it can continue to evolve—in a direction that brings you closer to what you truly desire.

Acknowledge the Current Situation

Before we dive into solutions, it's crucial to recognize and accept where you currently stand. This acknowledgment is the first step towards transformation. If your marriage isn't heading in the direction you'd hoped, it's time to pause and reconsider what you really want. What does an ideal marriage look like to you? Identifying this vision sets the stage for creating actionable steps.

Setting Your Desired Course

Once you've envisioned the kind of relationship you want, you can work backwards to figure out the necessary...

Rediscover the Joy of Intimacy: Transforming Your Marital Sex Life

In this episode, we're diving into a topic many find challenging yet significant—how to revitalize your sex life after entering marriage and motherhood. Our guest expert, Susan Bratton, breaks down some crucial insights that can help transform "I have to" into "I get to" when it comes to intimacy with your partner. Let's delve into how you can reignite that spark in your relationship!

Understanding Your Unique Sexual Needs

First things first, it's vital to recognize that feeling disconnected from your sex life doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Many women fall into the pattern of viewing sex as a chore rather than a source of pleasure. Factors such as hormonal changes, societal pressures, and lack of real sexual education contribute to this mindset. But here's the good news: understanding and embracing your unique sexual operating system can change everything.

It's Not About Meeting Obligations

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Embracing Hard Conversations for a Stronger Marriage

Navigating the complexities of marriage can sometimes feel overwhelming, especially when confronting those hard, often uncomfortable conversations. It's so common to shy away from these tough talks, feeling a swirl of anxiety, fear, or even dread. You might find yourself thinking, "Why bother?" because the uncertainty of a positive outcome looms large. But here's the thing: conflict is inevitable in any close relationship. Whether it’s with your spouse, children, or even colleagues, disagreements are bound to surface because it's simply unrealistic to expect complete harmony at all times.

The key, though, is in how we handle these conflicts. Choosing to avoid them might seem tempting because it keeps us comfortable in the short term. However, this avoidance can lead to deeper issues, with growing resentment and prolonged discomfort. Instead, we can choose to confront these challenges head-on with the intent...

Navigating Parenthood: Healing Generational Trauma and Bridging Cultural Gaps

Parenting is no easy feat, and when intertwined with the intricacies of cultural heritage and generational trauma, it becomes even more complex. In this episode I am joined by Peggy Chen, a licensed clinical social worker and certified perinatal mental health therapist. Together, we dive deep into the nuances of Asian American experiences in motherhood and marriage, highlighting how cultural backgrounds shape our parenting styles, marriages, and personal growth.

Understanding Cultural Influences and Generational Trauma

Being raised in Asian American households influenced our approach to emotions and mental health. Growing up, emotions were often not acknowledged, and cultural norms shaped how parents showed affection. This absence of emotional dialogue in their childhoods prompted both of us to strive for change in how we parent our children. Feelings of responsibility for our...

The Secret to a Stronger Marriage: Choose Connection Over Being Right

It's easy to fall into the trap of wanting to be right in our relationships, especially in marriage. After all, proving our point can feel so satisfying in the moment. But, as I've come to learn as a marriage coach, the real prize isn't in winning an argument – it's in nurturing a loving, connected relationship. In this quick read, let's explore how shifting from seeking victory to prioritizing partnership can transform your marriage.

You Can Be Right or You Can Have the Right Relationship

One of the biggest realizations I've had is this: in any conflict, you can either be right or have the right relationship. This doesn't mean you should become a doormat or always be wrong. It's about recognizing that in marriage, feeling connected and understood outweighs the temporary thrill of being right. It's the emotional intimacy that builds a strong couple, not the moments when one stands...

Balancing Ambition and Family: How to Avoid Burnout as a High Achiever

In today’s fast-paced world, balancing career aspirations with family commitments is a challenge for many. In a conversation with Katy Murray, we delved into the struggles and strategies of navigating ambition alongside a fulfilling family life. Here’s a peek into some key insights that can help you thrive personally and professionally without sacrificing one for the other.

The Art of Slowing Down

For many high achievers, the notion of slowing down seems counterintuitive. However, embracing a more mindful pace is essential for sustaining energy and avoiding burnout. Rather than racing to tick off every item on a never-ending to-do list, take a moment to breathe, reflect, and prioritize. This intentional pause helps you align your actions with your core values and goals, fostering a fuller, richer life.

Scheduling Downtime

A chief takeaway from our discussion is the importance of...

Navigating Marriage: Turning Conflict into Connection

This episode is about embracing imperfection, the strength of vulnerability, and how practicing what I preach to my clients and my community can transform relationships. Let's dive into an authentic, behind-the-scenes look at how one can apply principles of understanding and calm even in frustrating moments.

Facing Frustration: Recognizing Patterns

Marriage isn’t perfect, and for many of us, it's a continual learning path. At times, we face disappointment and unmet expectations, especially when juggling responsibilities. With one partner deeply immersed in work and the other managing a business, stress levels can rise when communication falters.

A Familiar Scenario: Juggling Responsibilities

Imagine the scene: hectic weekdays where one drops off and picks up kids, balancing between dance classes and school pickups. Tuesdays were meant for a shift in routine—where my husband covers the pickup....

Reclaim Your Pelvic Floor: Insights into Motherhood's Hidden Struggles

In this episode, I am joined by Becca Boeving, we're diving into a topic that's as essential as it is overlooked: pelvic floor health. Whether you've experienced motherhood yourself or are in awe of the journey others have taken, understanding this part of our anatomy can make a world of difference.

Understanding the Pelvic Floor

The pelvic floor consists of muscles that support various functions, from control over bathroom habits to enhancing intimate moments. Despite its critical role, myths abound, like the ubiquitous suggestion to do Kegels at stoplights. The truth? Not all pelvic floors benefit from Kegels, especially if they’re already tight, which can actually exacerbate issues like incontinence or pain.

From Misconceptions to Realities

Postpartum life often leaves us in a whirlwind concern mostly focused on the newborn. Meanwhile, mothers are left with their pelvic floor recovery...

Navigating Anger in Marriage: Turning Arguments into Conversations

In this episode, we're diving into how recognizing and understanding emotional patterns can transform arguments into more productive conversations, ultimately fostering growth in our marriage.

Understanding Emotional Patterns

Let’s be honest, no one wakes up hoping to have an argument with their spouse. In fact, most of us hope for smooth sailing each day, desiring progress rather than setbacks in our relationships. Recognizing our emotional patterns is a pivotal step toward achieving that. Once we understand the habitual ways we react during conflicts, we can begin to navigate them more effectively. These patterns often form as protective responses, but they don’t always serve our best interests.

Teaching Our Children Emotional Management

Our emotions heavily influence our daily interactions, so it's crucial to handle them wisely. This is especially important as parents, as our children...

Navigating the Journey of Raising Boys: Insights from a Parenting Expert

While each child is a unique individual with their own strengths and challenges, there are common threads that bind the experience of parenting boys. In this episode, we explore insights from Rachel Sklar, a dedicated parent coach specializing in helping families raise kind, calm, cooperative, and connected boys.

Embracing the Challenge of Parenting Boys

Parenting can be both rewarding and daunting, particularly when it comes to raising boys. From dealing with unexpected behaviors to unlearning traditional approaches, the journey is filled with learning moments. Rachel shares how understanding and adapting to each child's unique needs radically changed her approach to parenting her three sons. Her personal experience highlights the importance of customizing parenting techniques to suit your child's temperament, interests, and strengths.

Creating a Harmonious Home Environment

A key...